The Crotchet’s Corner

My perspective about all things inconsequential

Ask no questions …

Humans are curious by nature – some more than others. They want to know about what’s happening. The purpose of wanting to know varies, though. For some, it is a harmless natural curiosity. For others, it could be a need to obtain information that is then used as fodder for gossip. There are others who ask out of concern and a genuine desire to know.

There is the concept of “need to know” as opposed to “want to know”. It is hard, at times, to know where to draw the line when it comes to asking questions. Not surprisingly, this also places the other person in a bit of a spot about what to say and what not to. It gets awkward.

We often forget that our questions could irritate the other person who might wonder about where the line of questioning is leading to. Defenses immediately come up, and we are left with either no answers at all, or a rebuke.

It is important to recognize, however, that it is our fault for asking so many questions in the first place.

Are we going to gain something by asking? Is it relevant to us? Can we do something out of knowing?

If the answer is “no”, then the best approach, perhaps, is to shut up and not ask. In the process, we do not get a rebuke. And the other person does not feel compelled to then answer without causing offence.

It takes time and effort to understand and realize that if it is important, we will surely be told.




February 7, 2010 - Posted by | About this and that | , , , , , , ,

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